Women speak and the world responds. But not always with respect. What should have been just a tone of voice becomes a minefield, where any inflection can be interpreted as aggression, submission, or artificiality. In the digital age, where everything is recorded, shared, and judged, the way a woman communicates can be the difference between being heard or silenced by the internet's court.
An assertive woman can be labeled as bossy. If she uses a softer tone, she may be seen as fragile. The problem is not how we speak, but how we are perceived. This creates an unfair and exhausting balancing act, laments Micarla Lins, a specialist in oratory and female communication.
The canceling phenomenon amplifies this dilemma. Personalities like Meghan Markle, Anitta, and even heads of state face daily judgments about the way they express themselves. "A phrase out of tune can trigger a tsunami of criticism, regardless of the actual message. Society, trained to interpret female voices within outdated molds, reinforces stereotypes that hinder women's rise to leadership and influence positions," warns Lins.
But how to prevent communication from becoming a trap? Micarla gives some directions
- Tone awarenessAdjusting your voice doesn't mean changing who you are, but understanding how your intonation impacts the perception of the message.
- Strategic pausesSpeaking slowly and confidently reduces the chances of interruption and increases the clarity of speech.
- Aligned body expressionWhat is said should be in harmony with gestures and posture to avoid contradictions in communication.
- Resist self-censorshipMany women adapt to standards to avoid judgments. Finding a balance between authenticity and strategy is essential.
The internet can amplify prejudices, but it can also be a space for change. Women who master their own communication turn their voices into tools of power, not oppression. The challenge is not just to speak, but to ensure that the message is heard without distortions, concludes Micarla.
